Lauren Bersinic
Tell us a bit about yourself?
I’m 30 years old and working in disability and youth services. I currently work 4 days a week and study a Diploma of Community Services one day each week. Myself, my partner, our daughter, 2 dogs, and our cat are currently living out on a property at Murrumbateman - where we get to enjoy the many farm animals and great scenery. I really enjoy my exercise, touch football and getting away to the beach or the river. I also love spending time with my family and friends.
What were you doing before babies?
I was exercising a lot, doing yoga, and heading away to explore various hiking tracks and camping spots with my partner.
How did you come to be a mum?
In 2020 I underwent surgery for various gynaecological issues where the surgeon burnt off tissues and performed a D&C. I was informed that I had Endometriosis and a blocked Fallopian tube, which meant it would be difficult for me to conceive children. Here I was referred to the fertility specialist. A day before I was due to attend my specialist appointment I conducted a pregnancy test (as my period was late), and found out I was pregnant. Despite the surgeon having told me that a D&C would make me more fertile for the weeks after it, I couldn’t believe my eyes!
What has your feeding journey been like?
Feeding was so difficult for us. After 5 weeks of struggling with breast feeding, our gorgeous daughter was admitted to the high care ward at the Canberra Hospital for 5 days. After increasing her feeding we were discharged, and our daughter was diagnosed with silent reflux and a tongue tie. After being placed on medication and having her tie cut, her feeding increased dramatically. Despite my desire to breast feed, I was just so happy that she was fed. Even if it was formula.
What has sleep been like in your house?
Sleep has not been too bad for us besides when she is teething or is recovering from an operation. Our daughter Jordynn loves to be put down and left alone to go to sleep. Although it is kind of nice to have time to myself, I would love more cuddles!
The hardest bits…
Gosh, I initially would have said the hardest part would have been the post natal depression for months after birth, but I think looking back now I would have to say it is the journey we have been on for the last 16 months. During our stay at the Canberra Hospital, the specialists discovered that our daughter had two dislocated hips. We were referred to the Sydney Children’s Hospital in Randwick, where Jordynn underwent multiple surgeries and procedures. She was placed in a body cast from her chest to her ankles for three months which made nappy changes, bathing, nursing and feeding quite complicated. Whilst all of this has been quite difficult to experience, I think the hardest part would be the time we have to wait to see some progress in her hips. She remains in a brace 23 hours 7 days a week, and does not get to take part in physical activities that most children her age are engaging in. We have been told that she should hopefully be out of her brace by 2, but then there is the possibility of future surgeries at 3. We can’t wait for this hip journey to end.
The best bits…
Oh gosh, the best parts are seeing my daughter smile and watching her develop. I love how much they take in, and how they try to imitate what they have learnt. My daughter has definitely taught me the true meanings of so many things such as resilience, strength, appreciation and love. SHE is the best bit.
How do you make time for yourself?
Other than taking a trip to my parents once every few months, I try to ensure that I make time for myself by asking people for help. Like the old saying goes, it really does take a village to raise a child.
What’s next for you and your family?
To be honest, I don’t really know what’s next for us other than buying a house. We are taking each day as it comes, and really trying to enjoy our time being a family of 3 for now.
If you could talk to your pre baby/kid self, what advice would you give?
Despite how hard things may get, remember they are never too hard to overcome.